yule/christmas wishes

Directions here:

http://www.livejournal.com/users/suzy_queue/390864.html

There are no guarantees and no strings attached. Just...wish, and it
might come true. Give, and you might receive. And you'll have the joy
of knowing you made someone's holiday special.

My List

Anything from my Amazon wishlist. (link) Yes, I have very eclectic
tastes. If you can buy it from the author's page so that the author
gets more money out of it, so much the better. And I'm totally in
favor of recycling something you have and are done with that I want.

Store gift cards: Tom Thumb, Albertson's, Kroger, HEB or even Walmart.
I'm partial to CVS and Half Price Books and Avenue and AMC.

iTunes. They are the new crack.

A paid subscription: Reader's Digest, Discover, TV Guide, Entertainment Weekly.

A grownup mentor for my daughter, kinda like a Big Sister. I don't
even think you'd have to live nearby.

Someone to help me with my eBay listings so that my stuff sells faster
and for more money. A real person, who actually knows how, not some
$3000 "guaranteed income" program. Not that I fell for that, but that
I get jillions of them in my inbox.

Some imps from BPAL. My flist is loaded with women who love that
stuff and I just haven't had time to get over there and figure out
what I'd like.

Hugs - real ones, or unexpected cyberhugs.

Surprise me with something silly.

Icons - I like 'ships, not necessarily romantic ones, and I like Numb3rs, Prison Break, Without a Trace, CSI original or NY, or just make something up. My little set of icons is kinda boring and I don't pick them to play very often.

(no subject)

A lot has been said about how to prevent rape.

Women should learn self-defense.
Women should lock themselves in their houses after dark.
Women shouldn't have long hair and women shouldn't wear short skirts.
Women shouldn't leave drinks unattended.
Fuck, they shouldn't dare to get drunk at all.

Instead of that bullshit, how about:

If a woman is drunk, don't rape her.
If a woman is walking alone at night, don't rape her.
If a women is drugged and unconscious, don't rape her.
If a woman is wearing a short skirt, don't rape her.
If a woman is jogging in a park at 5 am, don't rape her.
If a woman looks like your ex-girlfriend, whom you're still hung up on, don't rape her.
If a woman is asleep in her bed, don't rape her.
If a woman is asleep in your bed, don't rape her.
If a woman is doing her laundry, don't rape her.
If a woman is in a coma, don't rape her.
If a woman changes her mind in the middle of or about a particular activity, don't rape her.
If a woman has repeatedly refused a certain activity, don't rape her.
If a woman is not yet a woman, but a child, don't rape her.
If your girlfriend or wife is not in the mood, don't rape her.
If your step-daughter is watching tv, don't rape her.
If you break into a house and find a woman there, don't rape her.
If your friend thinks it's okay to rape someone, tell him it's not, and that he's not your friend.

If your "friend" tells you he raped someone, report him to the police.
If your frat-brother or another guy at the party tells you there's an unconscious woman upstairs and it's your turn, don't rape her, call the police and tell the guy he's a rapist.

Tell your sons, god-sons, nephews, grandsons, and sons of friends it's not okay to rape someone.

Don't tell your women friends how to be safe and avoid rape.
Don't imply that she could have avoided it if she'd only done/not done x.
Don't imply that it's in any way her fault.
Don't let silence imply agreement when someone tells you he "got some" with the drunk girl.
Don't perpetuate a culture that tells you that you have no control over or responsibility for your actions. You can help yourself.

If you agree, re-post it. It's that important.

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I'm not sure that a little instruction in personal safety is a bad thing, but for the most part, I agree. It's the rapist's responsibility to own up to his/her own actions, not the victim's responsibility to avoid life.