I totally get that you asking this question comes from a place of being supportive. I simply see using the cis prefix as a bigger picture course correction. A way for people to think about the privilege of normalcy.
But am I thinking now about what I would do if someone asked me to. To use cis-female as regular conversation. I don't know how often it would come up. I mean how often does anyone really introduce their gender that there isn't some kind of other motive. Because I'm not entirely sure I'd be comfortable with that. Nor am I sure about using 'they' instead of he or she on the off chance someone uses the other pronoun. Although I do use they/them in cases where I don't know who specifically I'm talking to.
The use of pronouns is how I've ended up knowing so much about my friend C's transition. C transitioned through 'they' on the way to 'he' from 'she', which has always touched me as one of the bravest things I've even know someone to do. It seems so simple and yet he had to go to HR and request a pronoun be added for forms. I can't imagine doing that. We were talking about it because of writing though. I have a weird thing for pronouns when I write and I was curious how C approaches pronouns in his writing.
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Date: 2014-02-25 02:48 am (UTC)But am I thinking now about what I would do if someone asked me to. To use cis-female as regular conversation. I don't know how often it would come up. I mean how often does anyone really introduce their gender that there isn't some kind of other motive. Because I'm not entirely sure I'd be comfortable with that. Nor am I sure about using 'they' instead of he or she on the off chance someone uses the other pronoun. Although I do use they/them in cases where I don't know who specifically I'm talking to.
The use of pronouns is how I've ended up knowing so much about my friend C's transition. C transitioned through 'they' on the way to 'he' from 'she', which has always touched me as one of the bravest things I've even know someone to do. It seems so simple and yet he had to go to HR and request a pronoun be added for forms. I can't imagine doing that. We were talking about it because of writing though. I have a weird thing for pronouns when I write and I was curious how C approaches pronouns in his writing.