I think I kind of expect people to correct me if I use the wrong pronouns. "I prefer she. Thank you." Okay - I can do that. I don't question why she prefers to be she, and I don't care whether she is in a suit/tie/ugly brown loafers or a pencil skirt and heels. That said, I've never known anyone during the transition, who shared with me that they were transitioning. I've known people both before and after and had no trouble making the correction in my head.
I'm struggling with this (and I get that it's nowhere near the struggle this person is experiencing) because I have known them as one gender for a long time, and now they have made a statement. "I wish to be addressed as x." It *should* be an easy thing to fix in my head, but I am struggling with it. Luckily, they are understanding of this and have agreed to gentle corrections when I unconsciously use the wrong descriptors, and I have agreed to be more mindful of my speech in public (and in private, of course!).
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Date: 2014-02-24 11:45 pm (UTC)I'm struggling with this (and I get that it's nowhere near the struggle this person is experiencing) because I have known them as one gender for a long time, and now they have made a statement. "I wish to be addressed as x." It *should* be an easy thing to fix in my head, but I am struggling with it. Luckily, they are understanding of this and have agreed to gentle corrections when I unconsciously use the wrong descriptors, and I have agreed to be more mindful of my speech in public (and in private, of course!).