Yeah. Calling someone a tranny is a bit like calling someone an n-word. It's best just to stay clear.
Even if a person doesn't present as female, that doesn't mean that not being identified as female isn't terribly painful. Surgery and hormones are expensive and difficult, there are family and career issues to contend with as well as concerns about passing. Despite the recent LGBT advances it is still considered okay to make jokes about trans people in the media. If a transwoman doesn't pass perfectly, she will be laughed at. Humiliated publicly almost everywhere. Trans-people go through hell to try to get some relief from the pain that comes with having these sorts of gender identity issues. And so 'woman' and 'man' are considered a matter of identity. If someone identifies as a woman, they are a woman and female pronouns should be used where appropriate. It's just a way of avoiding some unnecessary pain.
'"Oh, you're cis-female." Except to say, "No. I'm a female. There's no cis about it." Why is that wrong?'
The problem is that it suggests that people who are trans-women are somehow not women.
'Cis' is just used to distinguish between trans and not trans.
Sorry if this isn't helpful. I have to run to work.
FWIW, 'female' generally refers to biological gender. It's pretty rare to see the cis/trans nomenclature used with it.
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Even if a person doesn't present as female, that doesn't mean that not being identified as female isn't terribly painful. Surgery and hormones are expensive and difficult, there are family and career issues to contend with as well as concerns about passing. Despite the recent LGBT advances it is still considered okay to make jokes about trans people in the media. If a transwoman doesn't pass perfectly, she will be laughed at. Humiliated publicly almost everywhere. Trans-people go through hell to try to get some relief from the pain that comes with having these sorts of gender identity issues. And so 'woman' and 'man' are considered a matter of identity. If someone identifies as a woman, they are a woman and female pronouns should be used where appropriate. It's just a way of avoiding some unnecessary pain.
'"Oh, you're cis-female." Except to say, "No. I'm a female. There's no cis about it." Why is that wrong?'
The problem is that it suggests that people who are trans-women are somehow not women.
'Cis' is just used to distinguish between trans and not trans.
Sorry if this isn't helpful. I have to run to work.
FWIW, 'female' generally refers to biological gender. It's pretty rare to see the cis/trans nomenclature used with it.